A checklist posted on one of the forums I go to. Thought it’d be fun to take a peek and see how I’m doing.

Whether you’re actively trying or just thinking about getting pregnant, you can take steps now to make the experience as healthy and joyful as possible. Print and carry this handy checklist to keep track of your efforts.

Your Health

____ Get a complete physical. Done.

____ Discuss with your doctor chronic medical conditions (diabetes, Crohn’s disease, genital herpes) that may impact pregnancy. Done.

____ Review medications you’re taking, and ask whether they should be altered or discontinued. Done.

____ Ask for a blood test to determine your immunity to childhood diseases such as rubella; get vaccinated if necessary. Done.

____ Review job-related hazards (poor air quality, chemicals, heavy lifting) to determine whether they could pose a risk to a developing fetus. Still need to check about my new job, but I’m not overly concerned.

____ Get a prescription for prenatal vitamins; start taking them three to six months before you plan to conceive. Done.

____ Assess your eating habits: Keep a journal of what you eat for one week. Tried.

____ Cut back on fats and sweets. Failed. After a few months of being all healthy and pregnant-like and yet NOT BEING PREGNANT I said “screw this” and went back to all my bad habits.

____ Follow FDA daily guidelines for good nutrition: 2-3 servings of calcium-rich foods; 7 servings of fruits and vegetables; 2 servings of lean, high-protein foods like beef, fish, or white-meat poultry; and 6 servings of grains, preferably whole-grain breads, cereals, or brown rice. Tried. Failed.

____ Drink lots of liquids; at least 8 glasses a day of water, juice, and/or milk. I do this anyways.

____ Cut back on caffeinated beverages. I don’t drink any caffein anyways.

____ If you currently have an exercise program, check with your doctor to make sure it’s safe to continue during pregnancy. If not, make modifications as necessary. I did this, swimming is a GOOD thing… but then I stopped going because I’m lazy.

____ If you don’t currently exercise, ask your doctor whether it’s safe to start. Try low-impact activities like swimming or walking. I started. I did not continue.

Your Finances

____ Find out if your insurance covers 100 percent of prenatal care/delivery. You may need to change to an in-network doctor, or choose one local hospital over another. Did, and it does.

____ If you don’t have insurance, get some now. Depending on your location, individual HMO policies start at around $200 a month — substantially less than the cost of medical care for a pregnancy from start to finish. Already have it.

____ See an accountant or financial planner to discuss savings plans, both for baby’s college and for other big-ticket items like nannies, day care, private preschools, and unfunded maternity or paternity leave. I already went over our finances and will be starting a savings plan shortly for all the baby gear stuff.

____ Determine whether you need two incomes to get by. If one of you wants to scale back to part-time, or quit working altogether to stay with the baby, start planning now. We’ve talked about this extensively. We’re already getting by on only one income, and in fact it may go UP after a baby’s born, depending on how much freelancing I do. Right now it’s very little.

____ If you plan to keep working, find out about your company’s maternity leave, telecommuting, and flextime policies. My job is pretty straightforward. ;)

____ Start researching life insurance. You’ll both need coverage once you have a child. Okay this I haven’t done. I have no idea about life insurance.

Lifestyle and Relationship Issues

____ Say good-bye to alcohol, drugs, and nicotine. If you can’t kick the habit alone, get help from your doctor, your company’s Employee Assistance Program, or support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous. I only drink socially, and I tend to avoid it during the 2ww. When AF hits I like to have a glass or two. ;)

____ Get some sleep. All-nighters can wreak havoc on your health — and possibly, your fertility. I get plenty of sleep. Just not always at night.

____ Minimize stress. If possible, postpone stressful situations such as moving or changing jobs. We’re dealing with the dog, and the fact that we are not yet pregnant is probably the most stressful thing in my life right now. I’m not all that stressed.

____ Confront your demons. Childhood traumas, like losing a parent or being emotionally or physically abused, can profoundly impact your ability to parent. Unpack your emotional baggage now — preferably with the help of a therapist, clergyman, or other professional — to avoid passing it on to your kids. Oh my mental issues is an ongoing thing, lol. I’m going to be seeking a therapist fairly soon I think.

____ Address issues in your relationship. While babies can make a happy marriage even happier, they don’t cure unhappy ones. If you’re dissatisfied with your relationship, get help now. We’re working very hard on communication, that’s what we were not doing well. :)

____ Discuss expectations with your partner and other family members. Expecting your mom to take care of the baby while you go back to work? Make sure she knows it. Similarly, talk with your partner about splitting child-care and household responsibilities after the baby comes. We’ve talked a lot about it.