When Kate was just starting to go to bed before me I would get irritated with Den when he said he was going to bed. It was hard enough getting her to fall asleep and stay asleep after I crept out, I didn’t want him going in and disturbing her. He snores sometimes. And she sleeps on our bed – she’s at the far side from him, 4 feet of space in between, but I don’t want his turning over to disturb her.

I am recently realizing that she sleeps far better when he’s asleep in there too. The last few nights have been incredibly frustrating to me, she’s been waking and crying for me 5 or 6 times after I put her to sleep, I have to keep going back in over and over. I was ready to tear my hair out! Well Friday and Saturday nights Den stays up late, as he doesn’t have work in the morning. This evening I put her to bed early and has to go pacify her multiple times. Then Den went to bed and… silence. I sometimes hear a snore from him, I hear the lullabies playing, but not a sound from Kate. That can’t be coincidence.

Last night Den was gone overnight. Other than the pain of trying to get her to sleep while I stayed up a while it was a glorious night. I would nurse her, then move to Den’s side of the bed and happily sleep on my belly all splayed out, my favored sleeping pose. Kate slept just fine, rousing every once in a while for a nurse and a cuddle, but nothing much else. Once I even remember her opening her eyes, lifting her head slightly, then flopping back down and falling right back asleep. I think she was checking to see if one of us was still there with her.

Of course she does still have a little bit of a stuffed nose, noticeable only when she lays down to sleep. That could have something to do with the crummy going-to-bed, too.