Circs
Today while getting everything “out in the open” the circumcision topic was brought up again (by me, as usual). Den is very very firmly convinced the circumcision is the ONLY option for a baby boy, that it would be – in his words – “gross” if the baby wasn’t circ’d. So tonight while awake and completely bored I poked around the Mothering forum on Circumcision. Oh my god, I feel ill. I could never, will never, do that to my son. I just don’t understand it at all.
Hopefully reading some of those things will convince Den. In a normal situation I think reading anything like that would completely freak him out – but he really feels very strongly about this so I know he will have issues. I read the most disturbing story about a woman whose husband totally freaked out when she tried telling him exactly what circumcision was…. because if he admitted that it was better not to circumcise his son, it would mean admitting that his own penis was lacking and that idea was so horrifying to him.
It all just really chilled me. I’m really hoping we get a little baby girl so we can avoid all of this!
But you know, other than the circ issue, I have really warmed up to the idea of having a baby boy. Seeing others’ baby boys reminds me of when my brother was young and it just makes my heart melt. My brother was the most adorable little kid, he really was. Yeah, I think I could deal very well with a baby boy. :) (But of course I will still secretly hope for a girl. ;) )
And see … I have read some pretty awful things about non-circ’ed boys and men too. (Of course, all of the links now elude me.) The thing I’ve noticed about forums is that they attract all the people that are very one sided about the issue, typically of the intact, “how dare you mess with God’s design” side, and they fill themselves up with horror stories without considering the other side. It’s like a lot of breastfeeding forums – the second anyone says “well, my baby is formula fed” it’s like this massive mob with pitchforks and accusations. Frankly, they scare me o.o
Dunno. In the end, I saw plenty of pros and cons to both, so I basically told John he was the one with the penis so he could do some research and decide if he felt he was missing out or not *lol*
And baby boys are awesome! That picture is adorable … though I have to say, while you so look like grown up you, he does NOT look like grown up Cory!
I have a ton of links related to this. i know its a touchy subject for people, but when i was deciding what you said to me made an impact, it really did. and i tell you what, that is probably THE most secure and best decision i made regarding dominic. im serious. i have never had a doubt that it was the right thing to do (well, not do) Ill send you some links on talking to husbands about it. It pleases me to hear you say this.
“That picture is adorable … though I have to say, while you so look like grown up you, he does NOT look like grown up Cory!” – No kidding, huh? My mom and I both stare at his old photos and wail, “What happened??” LOL!