How much to share?
Twitter and I are breaking up.
I like the concept. It works well for me. But the problem is the public-ness of it all. I know, I write in a public blog about my reproductive system, what could possibly be more public than that? The thing is, this blog is moderately “hidden” from search engines. I am not stupid, I know that nothing is fool-proof, but I have some sense of being left alone in the internet world. I am here, wide open, if you know where to look – on the infertility blog rolls, from other blogs. But some random schmo searching for “condoms” won’t suddenly pop up in my blog. I have things in place to keep the spam away – and it actually does a reasonably good job of it, too.
Twitter spam is irritating as hell. I get it in all forms – the random friender that is really just a spam front; the @replies from some company/product that I might have mentioned off-hand; and the people who twitter and add others just for the numbers and the publicity. It pisses me off. Don’t use me to make a buck. Some days I feel like the only thing my twitter account does is allow this crap to find me. I now think twice about what words I’m using. It’s negated all the positives.
I find myself liking Facebook more, though I post much less there than I do in Twitter. I know who is reading, and it’s a lot more interactive. (It’s also a lot more family members, which is why I keep discussions of my hooha down to a minimum there… hence having twitter separate.)
So I might be going friends-only with twitter. Which means no happy twitter updates at the top of the blog during IVF stuff… which is the reason I started it in the first place. This is a problem. I dislike problems.
Hey, where ever you’re writing, I’ll be there reading. :)
I think some level of privacy is very important and I am learning that lesson the hard way. Something my therapist said (as well as some wise bloggers) is that you can’t unring the bell. Sharing absolutely everything about what’s so raw for us can backfire easily as people stumble on over. In my case, I gave my blog address to too many people. Now I don’t feel like I can talk about what’s going on in detail. If twitter is causing angst, then it is doing the opposite of what you probably intended it to when you started. Do what feels right…
I’m still trying to find my feet with twitter but since it’s linked to my blog and Facebook I don’t post any IF messages to twitter. I am thinking about moderating the friend though – it’s weird having random people follow my comments…
I enjoy your twitter updates at the top of this blog. It will sad to not get them anymore. But I completely understand.
I have my friends moderated. I got creeped out by so many people adding me for all those reasons. Once I did that the twitter spam went WAY down.
anyway, I understand your reasons for it if you decide that’s what you need to do.
(hugs)
I was gonna say make your twitter updates friends only. I did that cause I was getting random odd people, spam and porn adding me. I only wanted my friends to see what I was writing. I just wanted to be private.
Even having a private feed, you still get the occasional spambot trying to add you… but I gather that it’s a LOT less than if you’re not on a private feed. :)
It is so hard to be private in some ways and public in others. I am on twitter and facebook but I don’t have my blog and twitter connected directly. Only one of the people IRL that follows me on twitter knows about the blog, or at least as far as I know. I have been “coming out” more on my blog (actually using my husband’s name and that sort of thing) but I would like it to be gradual, as there are some pretty personal things I have written there that some people might not be okay with reading. Anyway, I understand the struggle to keep some privacy (and holy crap is the spam annoying!) and whatever you decide to do I will still be here reading.
Twitter has a spam account that you can follow and send reports to. It makes me feel better to turn people in. :lol:
Have you tried Plurk.com? That one you can totally lock any updates you want to be kept private or to a select group of people. You can link to twitter if you want.
I got sick of the same things you talked about and found plurk and I love it! Maybe you could give it a whirl. let me know your SN if you do :)