I’m starting to understand, now, the frustration and anger some TTCers feel towards those who get pregnant really easily/quickly. I find that now when I read a post by someone who got pregnant on their first cycle, or after “three really hard months,” I twitch. I don’t mean to, I don’t want to – but it’s really hard to feel excited when at the same time you’re thinking, “That’s it? Three months would have been a breeze!” Which is totally dismissing their very valid feelings of frustration and how hard it really is, for even one month. So yes, I remember my manners and congratulate them, or just don’t post. But it definitely gets harder as you go, to keep up that excitement for other people who seem to have it easy.

I’ll note though that it’s different when I know the person. If I know them, if I’ve been involved in their TTC journey, then it doesn’t matter how long they’ve been trying, I’m thrilled anyways. But it’s hard to get excited for strangers popping up all over on forums saying, “We just started – and we’re pregnant!” Gahhh.