{"id":707,"date":"2007-06-20T22:51:09","date_gmt":"2007-06-21T02:51:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/ttc\/?p=707"},"modified":"2007-06-20T23:11:15","modified_gmt":"2007-06-21T03:11:15","slug":"birth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/?p=707","title":{"rendered":"Birth Thoughts"},"content":{"rendered":"

I posted some fabulous links on Baby Blogorama about birth<\/a> that you really do need to go check out. I really really want to go see The Business of Being Born (unless of course reading about birth and delivery would put you in tears, then please avoid). I really, really hope they get it to show on movie theaters. I would drag<\/i> Den to it.<\/p>\n

I’ve been trying to explain to Den how important the labor and birth process is to me, and what my vision of it is. I don’t want to give birth here at home, unless we somehow miraculously finish updating the entire house by then. And then I’d still have to deal with the dogs and cats, and I quite frankly don’t want that – or the fur. But I want a home-like<\/i> setting. I say this again and again – but I do not<\/i> want to be hooked up to monitors and be laying in a hospital birth. I’ve come to accept the fact that that is how I’m going to MAKE the baby. But I’ll be damned if that’s how the baby is going to come OUT. So what if most people do it the other way around.<\/p>\n

The (huge) stumbling block in my fantasies of giving birth in a dark room on a bed with a midwife and a doula is… my husband. Now I certainly can’t fault him for being protective of me and any future baby. The man is downright terrified of something going wrong. Just me mentioning looking for some other birthing centers – other options – near here had him whipping his head around and saying, “But that wouldn’t be in the hospital!!”<\/i> He is fine with me doing whatever I need to do to get through the birth, but he wants me within 10 feet of a team of doctors – and no I am not joking about that. He knows a major bigwig at the hospital’s L&D department and he has visions of him summoning this bigwig to my bedside to deliver my baby – despite the fact that I seriously doubt a major bigwig would be doing anything of the sort.<\/p>\n

I really hope that by sharing stories and statistics (when I get around to actually reading books about birth – which won’t be until after I’m pregnant) and by talking to him about how important this is to me, that he’ll come to understand my viewpoint. I would feel completely safe giving birth with a midwife in a birthing center. I just hope he<\/i> can feel safe about it.<\/p>\n

(The more I think about what my current midwife told me, the less I’m thinking it’s going to work for me. I’m not even guaranteed to give birth with her, I might get stuck with the OBGYN in the practice, and they only give birth at the hospital. I like her a lot<\/i> – a point Den keeps reminding me of – but it’s just not what I am really hoping for. I would hate to change to someone new, but I don’t want to feel restricted just because I started with her and didn’t want to change.)<\/p>\n

Then again, there’s still that women’s and infants center at the hospital that may<\/i> provide what I’m looking for.<\/p>\n

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Tonight my legs and feet are very crampy. Luckily I’ve been catching them and stretching them out before they hit full-blown cramp mode. Not really sure what’s causing this, and not really sure what to do about it, either. Oh, I think I know… dancing all yesterday evening at the club… in high heels. Yep, that’ll do it. (A day late is unusual, though.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I posted some fabulous links on Baby Blogorama about birth that you really do need to go check out. I really really want to go see The Business of Being Born (unless of course reading about birth and delivery would put you in tears, then please avoid). I really, really hope they get it to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":71,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[14,7],"class_list":["post-707","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-labor-delivery","tag-thoughts-and-emotions"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/707","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/71"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=707"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/707\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=707"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=707"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=707"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}