My belly button incision is really bugging me today! Mostly itching… really really bad itching, bordering on little sharp pains. It’s more irritating and distracting than anything. Also, while inspecting it (to make sure it all looked good – it does) I think that the new shallowness of my bellybutton might<\/i> be because it’s stuck together as it heals… not because it was stitched that way. Wouldn’t that be nice. ;) Stupid belly buttons.<\/p>\n
Den is having some trouble understanding the “alternative” way I want to do things. Now just in case you’re not aware, I’m leaning towards more of a “crunchy” side of things. I think a lot about labor and birthing because honestly when I started TTC I was absolutely terrified<\/i> about it. So I immediately started researching and reassuring myself. Here are some of the conversations we’ve had recently:<\/p>\n
About me wanting a medication-free birth Den says<\/i> he’s being supportive, but I see the barely-suppressed eyeroll and his, “We’ll see how it goes dear.” Which pisses me off. I’ve tried explaining to him that there’s no room for doubt, I WILL DO IT and I need him to fully believe that and not let me down. IF I do get in a situation where I need medication I can and will make that decision… but I need him to be onboard so when I say “I don’t think I can do this!” he will respond with, “YES YOU CAN!!” So we’re still working on that.<\/p>\n
I mentioned that I hope to labor in a position other than flat on my back. I want mobility, I want to be able to choose whatever position feels right at the time. He seriously stared at mel ike I grew a second head. His response was, “What?? How else would you do it??” I mean I don’t blame him for not knowing much – he’s never dealt with a woman in labor before! – but just the fact that he was STUNNED that there was any other way to give birth than laying on your back in a hospital bed… I had to explain other ways, such as squatting, or a birth stool. He freaked out! He thinks it’s “weird” and kind of gross. So again, something to work on later. (And I know at the time of labor he will do whatever I need him to do or I will probably take his head off… and he does not want that. I can get somewhat, umm, cranky.)<\/p>\n
Another thing I mentioned is my desire to be intermittently monitored and not hooked up to a machine (unless of course there is a need for it). That freaked him out too. :sigh: He got a little angry with me, saying how I want what I want without regard for the baby’s health… he wants me hooked up to every monitor to make sure everything is going 100% well. I tried explaining that studies and recommendations state that intermittent monitoring is JUST as safe. You do “check in” with the baby to make sure they’re doing well, but you don’t have to twitch at every little blip on the screen. He didn’t really believe me. So I’m going to have to show him the research to get him on board with that.<\/p>\n
Still absolutely no consensus or compromise on the circumcision issue. His only real argument is that “it’s gross” (not circ’ing). Which is completely rediculous to my mind. Den thinks a lot of things are “gross”, such as breastfeeding and squatting in labor. I think he needs to get over his own “issues” of grossness and think about the bigger picture. I do feel bad I mean I am kind of running rufshod over him with these things, and with anything else I’d probably give him the circ decision to placate him, but I feel really very strongly about it, and it’s not really something I feel I would be okay with giving up. I really do think I would strongly regret that the rest of my child’s life, and I don’t want to put myself in that position. I think the whole idea of circumcision is outdated and somewhat barbaric. I really try not to judge other people’s decisions for theirselves and their own families, even though I don’t necessarily agree with it… but when it come to my OWN child, that’s a whole ‘nother issue.<\/p>\n
Anyhow. We are obviously far apart on many issues. One saving grace is that the hospital he wants me to give birth at – the same one I have all my infertility stuff at – also has a woman’s birthing center located in one of the buildings. I haven’t checked it out yet, but I would LOVE to give birth in a birthing center. And it’s basically attached to the big hospital that Den wants, in case of an emergency.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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