{"id":530,"date":"2007-02-22T23:53:10","date_gmt":"2007-02-23T03:53:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/ttc\/?p=530"},"modified":"2007-02-22T23:53:10","modified_gmt":"2007-02-23T03:53:10","slug":"reversal-of-roles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/?p=530","title":{"rendered":"Reversal of Roles"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t think I mentioned &#8211; my AF was a full 2 days long this month. 2 days. And one day of spotting. Then&#8230; gone. I was all expecting to get hit with a second round, but nope, nothing. Ummm, okay.<\/p>\n<p>I have a headache tonight, which is making any type of thinking difficult. And this time I can&#8217;t really blame my hormones right? Or maybe I can. Who knows what birth control does.<\/p>\n<p>Den and I talked some more. He&#8217;s still really really freaked out about the fact that we have only a 50% chance of getting pregnant. Usually I&#8217;m the one freaking out, so I&#8217;m not really sure how to handle it except to reassure him that 50% is a GREAT number. He kept saying how he could flip a coin 10 times and get 8 tails.<\/p>\n<p>We have come to an agreement (and shook on it!) that we&#8217;ll transfer two 3-day embryos or one blast. For our first IVF&#8230; if that fails, then we&#8217;ll do two blasts the next time. He apparently thought I meant I only wanted to transfer one no matter what stage they&#8217;re at, no matter what, so I think he was a little relieved. Not entirely happy, but relieved.<\/p>\n<p>He also talked a lot about twins and how we&#8217;d handle that and what that would mean for us. I&#8217;m really a little surprized at how enthusiastic he is about the idea now. Plus he kept saying that if we got two of the same with twins I&#8217;ll want to try again &#8211; whereas if I go through two pregnancies and get two of the same I&#8217;ll probably be less likely to try again. He is VERY stuck on the idea of having a boy. I think he may cry if we get a girl. It&#8217;s frustrating me. And it&#8217;s not that he doesn&#8217;t want a girl &#8211; he wants one of each &#8211; he just really wants at least one boy and to him a girl first means it&#8217;s even more likely he&#8217;ll never get a boy. I don&#8217;t know, what can I say, it&#8217;s thinking from his man-brain.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m just not sure how to handle this reversal in roles. I am feeling very optimistic, pretty relaxed, looking forward to starting. He&#8217;s the one freaking out that we may never have a child. I like to think it&#8217;s because I have a better grasp of the numbers, but I fear the truth may simply be that we&#8217;re looking at different sides of the same coin. I just keep reiterating that more than likely we haven&#8217;t really had a decent chance with the clomid\/IUI, and that IVF totally changes the game for us.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m just really looking forward to getting started. I haven&#8217;t made the appointment with the doctor yet though, got busy today and forgot. Tomorrow, tomorrow. I was thinking though&#8230; our insurance makes us pay a $30 co-pay each doctor visit. So I can pretty much assume that I&#8217;ll be paying $30 for <i>every<\/i> ultrasound throughout the IVF cycle. IUI, one ultrasound, not a big deal. But that&#8217;s another $200 or so that I hadn&#8217;t counted on.<\/p>\n<p>This headache is making is so difficult to concentrate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t think I mentioned &#8211; my AF was a full 2 days long this month. 2 days. And one day of spotting. Then&#8230; gone. I was all expecting to get hit with a second round, but nope, nothing. Ummm, okay. I have a headache tonight, which is making any type of thinking difficult. And [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":71,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[10,8],"class_list":["post-530","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-den-and-me","tag-ttc1"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/530","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/71"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=530"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/530\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=530"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=530"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/lunardreams.net\/baby\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=530"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}