For a while now we have been waiting to hear from our reproductive lab, waiting to hear about storage charges for our one frozen embryo that was left over. We intended to use it first when we returned to the RE in December, and I was in no hurry to pay charges – I wasn’t sure exactly when we’d have to start paying.<\/p>\n
So today we got the notice. We either have to choose to discard it, donate it, or pay storage fees. Except of course now we don’t have any plans to use it, with me being already pregnant. But at the same time we’re not completely 100% sure we’ll not want another, especially if something were to happen to this pregnancy.<\/p>\n
I’ve been thinking a lot about it lately, about the future and the question of being done. It’s early still, but my gut feeling is that I’m done. I’ve not had this feeling before. When I was pregnant with Devin and with Kate I was absolutely certain it was not my last pregnancy, that I would have another one day (or at the very least want<\/i> another, there being no guarantees in life). This time… this time I already have a toddler. I’ve been through pregnancy twice already. I’m sick again<\/i>. I feel like three pregnancies is enough for me. Maybe I’ll regret that one day, maybe I’ll change my mind, but… I’m kind of looking forward to moving into the next stage. Now that Kate’s sleeping through the night and not breastfeeding much I was starting to feel like my old self – getting my sex drive back, my body shape back, my energy. Even hobbies outside holding a baby all day (which I loved, don’t get me wrong – but it doesn’t leave much time for scrapbooking, does it). Now I’m pregnant again and thinking, this isn’t so new and exciting anymore. It’ll be another 2 years before I get “my” body back. When I get there I really don’t think I want to go through this all again.<\/p>\n
Not to mention two children in the house was our goal all along. Two is a good number, I think. They have each other. I have my hands full. I don’t really see myself having a third without growing another arm. Not to mention what we would do with this small ranch house – the kids will be sharing a room for a long time as it is. Where would we put a third?! We’d need a new car, and forget flying to visit my parents… it’s going to cost way too much as it is with two of them. I just feel like two is the right number for us here in our lives. And a part of me kind of looks forward to them getting a bit older and more self-sufficient so I don’t have to be at full attention all the time. Looking forward to finishing my second degree over the next few years and then someday *gasp* getting a job. A job that makes money. So we can do fun stuff like add on to the house. We have all these plans, and they are nice plans.<\/p>\n
So that frozen embryo, I don’t think we’re going to need it. I certainly don’t think it’s worth paying a monthly fee to keep it on the off chance that we change our minds in the future, when for us insurance will cost us the same whether we do a FET or a fresh cycle. It’s not like getting rid of the embryo ends all our options.<\/p>\n
The options then are to discard it, donate it to research, or donate it to another couple. Discarding it is definitely scratched off our list. We’ve donated immature eggs to research before and we are comfortable with that choice. But then there’s that last choice. Den said that it would be nice to know that it’ll be used, that it will give someone else a chance. But it’s kind of weird to think of the possibility that someone might have Kate’s biological sibling out there. Especially that particular embryo, coming from the same retrieval that gave us her. (Not that it changes the biological significance, but emotionally.) We’re pondering. We never expected to ever be in this situation.<\/p>\n
What did you do with your leftover embryos? Did you use donated embryos?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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