I’ve been putting some of my time and coding skills into doing a few little things for a TTC group I’m in at FF. There are many buddy groups, I’ve come and gone from several, but there’s a group for girls born in 1982 and for some reason we seen to be closer than the “hey, yeah me too” types. The group keeps growing – people come and go, whether because of pregnancy or taking a break or just drifting off, but it seems we have more coming than going right now. So I made up a little chart with our names and DHs and how many kids we have and how long we’ve been trying and what kind of treatments we’re going through. Basically I first did it because I was having trouble keeping people straight, but I find I’m enjoying building more of a mini-community feeling for this group. And this morning I finally realized why: it’s giving me a secret-club feeling like a due date group would be. The longer we go the more I feel “left out” – but in bonding with other TTC’ers with a common theme we can build our own little group.<\/p>\n
As you can tell, I love to organize, I love to gather people up into little groups and give them jobs and a purpose and make it all official and pretty-like. I’ve done it for many years with other websites, other hobbies, other communities. I guess I have that leader attitude inside of me.<\/p>\n
On another note…<\/p>\n
For the past several months I’ve been very careful to avoid referring to myself as infertile or dealing with infertility. I’d say researching infertility<\/i>, later possibly dealing with infertility<\/i>, knowing others who deal with infertility<\/i> – etc. I was not infertile. Well not technically, not for sure. And I didn’t want to make it sound like I was masquerading.<\/p>\n
Just now I was typing a post response to just something random someone had said and I said something like, “and now dealing with infertility.” And it sounded so strange. There’s a part of me that wants to go, “No, no, no. We’re not infertile<\/i>. It’s not how it sounds.” But then the other side of me says, “Crap.” (Okay, so that side’s not all that eloquent.) And as much as I thought I was prepared and ready to take it in stride it was a shocking moment to fit that label to myself. No wonder so many people don’t want to face it right away – it’s a hard pill to swallow.<\/p>\n
Relaxing Doesn’t Make Babies… my journey in TTC – and now infertility.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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