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I was talking to Den about personality type tests and how me and my co-workers were on different ends of the spectrum in many ways. I find it hard to pin down my husband’s personality type. I led him through a quick Jung personality type and found out why: he’s pretty borderline in almost everything. It did peg him as the “Champion” type, ENFP, and I can see a lot of that in him. But there are large portions of the description that just aren’t necessarily right. He fluxuates. I can see a lot of ESTJ in him, even (moreso than any other – isn’t that strange).<\/p>\n

After he fell asleep I took the test myself to see how I’ve changed over the years. Interestingly enough I fall into the INFJ category now. The introverted part is a no-brainer, and after reading some descriptions of different types I do certainly seem to be an NJ – intuitive judging. But it’s that little F that’s a surprize.<\/p>\n

I used to be a very solid INTJ: the thinker. Many parts of the description still describe me very well, and I do think it’s dependent on what I am working on at the moment. I can be highly analytical and judgemental, sometimes to the exclusion of others’ feelings and situations. When I’m working, I’m working<\/i>.<\/p>\n

Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be “slacking,” including superiors, will lose their respect — and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers. On the other hand, they do tend to be scrupulous and even-handed about recognizing the individual contributions that have gone into a project, and have a gift for seizing opportunities which others might not even notice. [link<\/a>]<\/div>\n

I chuckled when reading the description. There have been times, many times, when at my one job I’ve just made a decision that something is stupid and needs to be changed – so I change it and let my boss find out later. (And she happens to really really hate change.) I am a perfectionist, and my respect needs to be earned – and once lost is hard to regain.<\/p>\n

But over the past few years a different side of me has been developing: the activist. The feeler<\/i>.<\/p>\n

Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life. Those who are activists — INFJs gravitate toward such a role — are there for the cause, not for personal glory or political power. … INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden.<\/div>\n

This is the side of me that is the writer, the mother. As my social skills developed, so did a great sense of empathy for others. One of the problems we encounter in our marriage is that I am highy reactive to his moods. I feel very, very deeply – I am easily hurt. And I feel a need to reach out to others. It is why I work in animal rescue, why I want to do more with pregnancy and birth, why I want to reach out more to other loss mamas.<\/p>\n

I have grown up in so many ways. As a child I felt so very isolated – more, I think, than a typical teen does. I had poor social skills combined with an introvert personality, a biological tendency towards depression, and an overly analytical mind that always had me questioning and working on details.<\/p>\n

I feel far more connected to the “mother” earth now, to the world around me. I have made many social connections and found that I enjoy helping others. I enjoy speaking out and supporting a cause – as long as I’m not standing out from the rest.<\/p>\n

It is interesting being at such different ends of the same spectrum.<\/p>\n

But of course there is a big part of me that thinks these personality tests are hugely flawed anyways. Fascinating, and certainly worth taking a good look at yourself to see if you can learn anything new… but to be taken with a grain of salt.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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